If I can get you to start sexually talking to me by the end of the first day, it makes me think of you as an easy girl. If I can get you half naked by the first time we see each other, what kind of a look is that for you? If you’re this easy with me, how easy are you with other guys?
Oh I’m sorry I didn’t realise that you were the sex police.
Please, explain how a woman expressing her sexuality and feeling comfortable makes her look bad? How does someones previous sexual experiences determine their worth?
Fucking slut-shamers, man - I wanna hit him over the head with a brick.
There are a million and one reasons to hate this whole line of thinking, but I want to talk about one thing in particular. To the men peddling this bullshit: what do you think this says about you? No, really? You said, “If I can get you to start sexually talking to me…” and “If I can get you half naked by the first time we see each other.”
If you are on a date with me and you don’t want me to talk sexually to you because you won’t “respect” me, then why talk sexually to me in the first place? If you don’t want to see me naked because gasp! it means I might want to have awesome sex with you and then you can no longer “respect” me, then why come onto me in the first place? If you have no “respect” for women that behave in these ways then what does it say about the kind of man who would initiate these things just to test my so-called worthiness?
At the end of the day, slut shaming has nothing to do with the way I dress or the way I behave. My self respect rests solely on how I feel about myself, which you can’t possibly know unless you ask me. Slut shaming isn’t about the person being shamed, it’s about the shamer and all their busted preconceived notions about sexuality, patriarchy, and gender roles. The problem doesn’t lie with alleged “easy girls”, it’s about how the shamer perceives them in relation to what he deems acceptable.